Imagine these situations: you are talking to another adult outside the school, or they call you on the phone, or you are explaining to the doctor what is happening to your child and then ... The child begins to interrupt without rest. He pulls you by the sleeve, speaks louder and louder for you to attend to him, taps you until you look at him and even falls to the ground and kicks.
They are children who do not have patience and do not know how to wait. This attitude makes us lose patience with parents and, many times, we end up punishing and yelling at our children. But, How can we prevent the child from constantly interrupting?
Interrupting using all kinds of strategies is a bad habit that some children have and, however, parents do not find the key to stop this behavior, what can we do?
1- To teach the child not to constantly interruptWe must stop for a second the conversation we had with another adult or the activity we did. It is only a second, in which we will come down to his height, it is the active listening method, and we will say to him: "now I am busy, when I finish tell me what is happening, just wait a little bit." And as soon as you finish the conversation with the adult, remind the child to tell you what he had in mind. If you continue with your routines and do not listen to him, the next time he will try to interrupt you again.
2. If your child still persists and keeps pulling at your sleeve, patting you, or yelling for you to attend to him, try not to lose patience and, of course, not yell at him. Keep calm, and put your hand on his shoulder or hold his hand. He will know that you are aware that he is waiting to tell you something. You can also touch his shoulder, look at him for a second, and turn around. It is the language of the body, it will understand without speaking that you are busy. Again, when you're done, go over to him and ask him to tell you what he needs.
3- We have to train children's patience. When your child asks for something, wait a few minutes before giving it to him, this short time interval will gain patience. If you do not respond to their requests lightning fast, they will learn to understand that you are not available to them always, at any time and under any circumstance and that, sometimes they have to wait. Of course, again you will have to keep your word and attend to him after a few minutes (whether he wants to tell you a joke, you help him draw a landscape or give him a cookie because he is hungry)
4. The star advice for any type of topic related to the education of children: example matters. If we interrupt him when he is telling us something and we do not let them finish their stories, if we also interrupt with other adults and we lack that patience to wait, our child will learn by imitation. It is important to listen to others and respect the turn to speak.
5. Try that those waiting times are not eternal, especially if your child finds it difficult to wait and is one of those who constantly interrupts. If you are talking to another adult, your child can wait a few minutes, but not half an hour. Don't make those moments too long.
And, one final piece of advice, don't think that it doesn't work with you because you've tried it once and your child keeps interrupting constantly. Your son or daughter will learn to wait their turn if you are consistent in applying these positive discipline methods instead of yelling and punishing.
If, in addition, you usually dedicate a space of time just for him, you will see that as he grows and matures, he will get less angry, he will have fewer tantrums for this reason and he will accept that he has to wait a few moments if you are doing another activity.
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